Rainbow, while I don't want my T to hurt me physically, I can understand the need for wanting T to "punish" you. I think it will be great for you to discuss it with her. In my case, I find myself just wanting T to get angry at me and yell at me for things like if I am avoiding a topic or not accepting her point on something even when she is right. I never pushed her boundaries, but I do get very frustrated when she remains calm and soft spoken ALL THE TIME. I think you are just experiencing the everyday parental transferrence that T's see all the time. Please let us know her response to you, if you want to share. I'm interested to see what she says, as I am trying to come up with a way to tell my T that her being so nice all the time frustrates me.