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Originally Posted by beautychic
My boyfriend is going through a divorce he filed because his wife left him a year and half ago and we had been together for 6 months til a week ago. His wife says she has a mass on her brain that may not even be true but constantly does evil things to him like use the kids (they have 3 young ones together) to get what she wants, tries to get him in trouble with the law and wanted nothing to do with him until we started dating and became jealous now that he is making a lot of money now and she wants him to take care of her and yet goes and sees other guys secretly that he found out about and now he says he wants to be with me but can't because he is confused on his feelings for her whether its bc of her illness and he feels its his responsibility to be there for her or bc he misses her and didn't want the family broken up in the first place. He says he knows deep down that it won't work out with her ever again because she has done so much to him and he can never trust her because he she still lies to him he says but still loves me. He doesn't want to be with her anymore and can't let go of her emotionally, so how can he so we both can move on in our relationship? We are both desperate in finding a way for him to let go of his emotions for her and just be friends for the kids sake so we can move on together as well.
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I write this with genuine concern for you, this man, his wife and their three children. Married people who want to get with someone new will often talk poorly about their spouse. It helps them cope with the guilt they feel for betraying their marriage vows and neglecting their children in pursuit of a new, exciting relationship. I think the very best thing you can do for this man and yourself is to encourage him to go away from you, work things out with his wife and become a better parent to his three young children, who need both their mother and their father. True love wants the very best for the loved one, and the very best for this man is to be with his wife and family.