oh beholden just saw your thread. after reading your multiple posts here i see that things are going well. i'm so happy for you. i'm the birthmom to a son i found when he was 35. he's 46 now. my other son was an "only" child. or so he thought. now they both have each other. it makes me so happy for them. have established a good relationship with my other son. adopted children have conflicting thoughts about themselves and who they are. from whence they came. how they got to be adopted. now your grandson is whole, too.
when my adopted son and i met we both felt that the big hole in our hearts has been filled. your grandson, son, and you are blessed as well. i'm so incredibly happy for all of you. glad u're taking it slow. it's the best way. they need to process it over time.