I can relate to this in a way, getting my boyfriend angry was a way of getting intensity from him. I'm an emotional being and he is more suppressive. We're now a mess because of these differences. I wouldn't continue with this because yours will be destroyed in the end. Find something ya'll both can be intense about. Of course make-up sex is good, try something else. If you take the time to look and figure it out it'll be worth it... good luck.