Well it turns out that once again I overreacted. I went away for the weekend to a yoga ashram and decided that on the way home if I saw he was home I would stop by and end things for good. When he saw me walk up he looked surprised and happy. I asked him if he ever planned on calling me again and he immediately apologized and explained that he had been grading papers(deadline, had a root canal (he had mentioned but I forgot)had exams to give and was also notified by the University that his contract would not be renewed next year. I felt so bad that he is losing his job but I still vented at him for all the ways he frustrates me and etc and he agreed that he has been a jerk. I asked him if we were broken up and he never actually wanted to or planned to break up-he really did need a week to take care of crap. He said that I am the only thing in his life that does not cause stress and that the night we had a fight was just bad timing. I am weak and have decided to give him another chance but I made it clear to him that he really pissed me off and that I was going to break up with him if he pulled any crap again. So for now I am just going to take it one day at a time and try to live in the moment and not be a control freak-as long as he puts in an effort.