So many women are still programmed that they have to be married by a certain time and have kids by a certain time in their lives. Phooey! What if you compromise by giving her an engagement ring, but asking for a long engagement? That is if you even want to compromise at this point. It does mean a lot to get a ring/other sign of committment that the world can see from someone a woman loves. However, there shouldn't be any arm-twisting involved. Subtle hints maybe, but no ultimatums.

OR You can turn the tables and say if she doesn't withdraw this "choice" you are leaving HER before she can leave YOU.