......if the world is not a support forum???????????............if we are not responsible for each other??????????...........i truly can understand your reluctance to get seriously involved in a relationship that is so one sided....but why do you fall into this pattern with people???????...because you are a good, sensitive , loving individual..........i guess what i would hope is that we all give something of ourselves to others when they are obviously so needy.........not everything and not all the time.......this would be detrimental to ourselves....but i can think of times in my life when i just needed to be heard.....and if that dear person that was listening to me had shunned me......i'm not sure where i would be today......and as timo said......what if we were the one who listened and prevented the loss of anothers life?.......myzen.....i truly understand your perspective.but for me the world IS a support forum.......