if I am not the things that happened to me,
and the things I did were things I did, they are not me,
and the things I say are not me, they are manifestations of my thoughts or feelings,
and I can't control what thoughts or feelings I have - they just happen (and indeed I should not try to control them, but let them be, and sit with them and let them pass),

Where am I?
what would be "me" ? Where am I?