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Old May 16, 2011, 01:40 PM
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Originally Posted by peaches100 View Post

YES, YES EXACTLY!!

When i get into too much pain in therapy, i feel like i need someone to rescue me, and feeling dissociated and small when it happens, desire my t to comfort me. But she wants me to learn to comfort myself. And when i am not sufficiently able to do that, then i feel like i am back in my childhood going through things i can't tolerate and no one to come to my rescue or help.

It really scares me because it's like reliving those situations over again where my emotions are out of control and terrifying and i can't stop them.
I think that when we are triggered like this it is best to focus in that moment on what is going on. In that moment tell yourself that this is why you are having such difficulty because you are triggering up that little girl who wasn't being supported and who wasn't getting her needs met.

And then tell yourself that you are an adult and that what is being triggered up isn't happening right now - but it is only the feelings from long ago which are coming out.

The only way out is through............
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