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May 16, 2011, 02:05 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi Farmer 4 ~ Bless your heart, your husband is using unfair tactics in order to hold you hostage. I don't believe for a minute that he intends on commiting suicide, but you never know.
Please - if there is ANY way possible, go see a therapist. You have got to get your POWER back. He has taken it away from you (actually you allowed him to). I did the same thing when I was married to my 1st husband. But I went to therapy and in a short time I got my power back, and was able to see that I was NOT at fault. You are not either. What happened to you with the elder at church and then with the boyfriend makes it understandable that you'd be reluctant in the sex department!!! I too was molested but it was by a THERAPIST -- so I also was reluctant in that department, and my husband also blamed me for everything that ever went wrong in the marriage.
Please get some therapy even if it's just a short time. You have to be validated and know that you're ok.  Plus you could use a little help. Your husband is using some unfair & downright lousy tactics. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee 
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