in between crying, calling T, and posting here I have been talking to my case manager this morning. She first offered to call T for me, but I said no, then I'll be seen as splitting. Then in a later conversation I asked her if she would call T to get some clarity about this new no-phone-call rule T just tossed out there. My case manager said her supervisor asked her not to talk to T because they see her as splitting and don't want to get caught up in that.