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I was married for 26 years to a man I didn't love. Lets just say that I was pushed into marriage by my folks - I was 18 at the time, and NO I was not pregnant. He ended up to be a real jerk, and emotionally abusive, big time.
I was an idiot to stay that long, but he threatened that he'd take away our kids if I left. I believed him cause he was capable of doing it. So i stayed until the youngest was 18, and then I left. I thought he'd kill me, but I left anyway. He stalked me & called at all hours of the night but it was WELL WORTH it. The freedom I felt was wonderful
No, it wasn't fair to him to marry him. It wasn't fair to me either to allow my parents to push me into it. No one wins.
I doubt if your marriage has been what one would call "happy." I imagine she has known that something has been wrong -- she MUST be able to tell. Don't wait until you have many years invested -- cut your losses and put an end to it now. I hope you don't have any children. Be kind to her and let her go and find someone who LOVES her. She deserves that. Best of luck. Hugs, Lee
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