I left my husband of 3 years of not being in love with him. We both were at an age of wanting to get married and feeling a bit desperate. After a while of being in more of a "roommate" situation...I realized I couldn't waste my life like that...it wasn't fair to either one of us. I think "settling" is a big mistake and you're obviously having issues with it or you wouldn't have posted. Why waste your time when there might be someone out there who you could be in love with...and you are wasting your wife's time too and if she's such a good woman she doesn't deserve that.