Oh my god.... I'm not the only one. Hello Aquarian Girl. Sometimes I wonder if I am going crazy I have to keep telling myself I am not - that I am strong and good and accomplished, that I deserve respect and trust. My significant other is the same, although not quite as irrational. But I have been accused of flirting with a female waitress in a restaurant, of having countless affairs at work, of getting where I am at work through sex, of masturbating when he is not around, of enjoying sex toys more than him, of .... well of anything. We fight about once a week. My newest tactic that I tried out this weekend worked a charm and made me feel calm and positive again (the first time in a long time. Every time he started his spanish inquisition with innuendoes of my infidelity, I just kept repeating "I am NOT going to have this conversation with you" until he gave up. He still called me all sorts of names, he still went into his mood, but it was much better not getting embroiled in a senseless fight. I too find it is such a waste. Vacations ruined, weekends lost - all for nothing but irrational and non-sensical accusations. What irks me most are the two sets of rules: his ever-changing set for me and the set he has granted himself. If I delete the messages on my phone I am "hiding something", he on the other hand deletes all of his immediately. If I receive calls from work on my WORK MOBILE I am having an office affair. This assumption he does not apply ot himself. It is frustrating, isn't it. I can't get him to go see anyone or talk to anyone about it. I am curious to see if my new tactic will have continued success and will result in changed behaviour patterns.