I just want to make sure that you understand that I am not saying that you should be a mother here or even a wife. That is not the meaning of this at all.
What it is giving you permission to do is how to give yourself some options in Life inspite of the clutter in it.

It is a beginning of seeing what you can do inspite of what is cluttering your life.
As you can see, your father and brother do not understand this. Instead they just keep cluttering or running away or eating too much. Your father takes your brother shopping and he buys him comfort in picking the wrong foods. See, now this is another statement that he is saying. He doesn't know how to do it any other way.
You can't blame him, he just doesn't know. Parents often just don't know, understand how to get on a positive track.

This is not uncommon, it is also going on in many people that come to PC. It is said in so many ways but it is talking about the same thing. That is why therapy is important good therapy to learn how to deal with life clutter. How to see it and say ok, yes, there is another option.

Everyone has to look at what it is they are allowing to own them in some way. No, it isn't easy, but if you learn how to really look at it and say, well, its is not going to be perfect, life just isn't perfect. But, I can live a decent life and learn to understand what is important and what is not and how I can make changes by looking at it differently. Just like that desk, it isn't just a desk, it can be other things too.

Yes, you can listen to music and take a nice bath and even pamper yourself. But while your doing those things think about the different ways you can make those desks into something more functional and yes, you can be creative and no, you are not going to do it all at once.
It is one desk at a time, it a planning and doing rather than just ignoring it by listening to music.
It is learning how to not let it own you. It is not about taking over for others, it is more about how YOU can make changes and see what is really there and what YOU can do about it. For YOUR piece of mind. And the good part is that someday your not going to be there, you will be on your own and guess what, you can take what you have learned by seeing the desks differently with you.

It can be fun you know.

Open Eyes