whenever a guy becomes very very upset that you don't trust him, i think there may be a really good reason why. what do you mean by "something is going on" with him and his family member?
it sounds like he's trying to turn it around, and make you seem like you have the problem......what's the word......deflecting? but, i don't know the whole story. you seem to be trying to listen to your intuition, but are afraid. i'm starting to think that's the worst fear to have.
about 2 years ago, i was involved with a guy who said to me, "It really upsets me that you don't trust me." As soon as I heard that, a little bing!! went off in my head. Yet, I still cried over him every night for about 3 months. A year went by, and it seemed like a fog had lifted. I'll tell you what I did to get over him. I wanted to call him so badly for the longest time, and actually did a few times before I got the hang of the little game I made for myself. I started out by trying to go a week without calling....then 2...3... a month...finally never again. In the mean time, I cried to sleep ALOT. I also wrote him letters, but never sent them. Just to get the thoughts out of my head. Music is a great healer too. Some people even use the ex as an initial motivation to better themselves. Embarrassing as this is to say, I thought, oh, I'll get in shape, change my hair, blah, blah, blah...then he'll love me. But, that only got me started on sort of a self transformation. Now, I want something even better. It's like taking yourself off the market, and getting all "souped" up for when the BEST one comes along. It's kinda fun now. So, that's another idea. If I think of any more, I'll let you know. Wishing you some restful nights. Take care.