You don't sound selfish. You just seem to be pondering. I get it, don't worry. Anyway, I had to laugh when you said you had been giving out the vibes again. What is it with those vibes? Are they involuntary? What the heck? Well, I know what you mean about when people want to tell you their problems, but don't want to seek out real therapy. You really want them to make an effort for themselves, but instead it's like they're transferring their worries over to you. That energy sticks with you for awhile too. You asked what it was that holds people back from getting proper help. Perhaps you are their quick fix. They're not ready for any real work. I don't know about you, but I think I let people do that to me sometimes because when I was growing up, my mother ridiculed me a lot, saying things like ,"You don't care about me, all you care about is yourself." I, too, am always worried about people thinking I'm selfish now because of that. Maybe, you are afraid that other people will accuse you of not caring about them? But, really, who comes first? In my opinion, it's the least selfish thing to do.....to take care of yourself first. Because then, you don't burden anybody else in the long run. Ah, I can't say it right. You seem like a good writer, maybe you can swirl it in your brain some more, and put it into better words. Hehe : )Well, take care. Hope I didn't confuse you more.