Danno,
hi, I could relate to your posted message. Sounds as though you have been hurt in your life, perhaps deeply. i know from my experience that this is very difficult to overcome. I, too, was betrayed by a therapist with whom I did alot of deep healing work. This was devastating for me and I still have not gotten over it, so to speak. What I have learned is that therapists are human and do make mistakes. Some are taking advantage of clients, which was not what happened with me. My therapist pretty much abandoned me and this was very hurtful, triggering abandonment issues that are very painful, to do with my Mom. I have also learned that it is not fair for me to see all therapists as inexperienced or untrustworthy. This does not mean I don't understand your views. Once one is hurt I believe it is difficult to trust again but that trusting again, taking a risk and having it work out...is exactly what will help. you are doing that here by sharing and talking about it. So, good for you. Its taken years for me to build a trusting relationship with my current therapist, who is more educated and experienced, it turns out. I have been hurt by both men and women, family who abused me. it is women I trust less...probably because my moms abuse is so painful. Anyway....to answer your question as to how to heal...it takes time, courage, risking. Sometimes we get hurt all over but sometimes we meet and connect with people who can teach us trust is possible. a trusting relationship truly can exist and this is how we grow. It is by no means easy. I too have put my dreams on hold, dreams what dreams? I basically have no self esteem and I believe therapy is the only thing that will help me with that particular issue which is a biggie. I'll take it one relationship at a time. still working on it with a long way to go. Sorry for the lengthy reply. I wish you well. , Judy