I am living with a depressed spouse, so I can feel your frustration.

Maybe six months ago I felt so much anger toward my husband. He was clearly depressed (he has struggled with it off an on during our 20 years of marriage). I know, I know, I know that yelling and threatening is the wrong way to deal with the situation, but its really hard when the person you are talking to doesn't respond. While in my heart I feel so much compassion toward my husband, I just get tired of not having a partner to help take care of the kids, take care of the house or go out with on weekends for a movie or with friends. I admit my frustration also occasionally had me saying things I regret.

Last night I learned our college-aged daughter failed last semester. In talking with my husband I actually said - out loud - that I feared our daughter being an under achiever like he is. How cruel was that?!?! I feel terrible, but its the blank, unresponsive look that drives me batty.

I hope your wife listens to you and knows that even decent, loving people can respond inappropriately when trying to support a spouse with depression. Everyone suffers when someone in the house is depressed.

I am praying for you - blessings. Thanks for letting me vent a little too.