I am so sorry for both of you Lava and JD. Both of you are such nice people and really never deserved to go through what you both did or are now.

When you really think of it not only did your youth suffer. But you finally get some life together and it comes back and takes more. To the depths of me I feel despair for you and others like you. And sometimes I see that it is one child that suffers thu it while sometimes the others give up and then step in to critisize. Another reminder of the whole disfunction of whatever was there.

I made another post in Other Mental Health discussions and it showed how I feel in bold print. To be honest I just can't believe that society allows people to have children with no education or understanding of what they are taking on. How can it be that we are so advanced in technology and we are constantly addressing all the fallout of how children are raised so poorly? I really have such a hard time when the only things that are mentioned is how children are in need of more education or better education. I never hear how there is a real need to educate people on how the raise a normal healthy child.

Oh yes we have laws not that prohibit child abuse, well, if a child shows bruises on the outside, what about about the damage on the inside?

If we have to take drivers ed, why don't we have to take parents ed?
I am not sure there is any real kind of program for that at all. It just amazes me that we have a president that had a father that abandoned him and we can even see that it did effect him, but that is never discussed either. NO, we just accept it. And it seems normal to just let it happen somehow.

And how about all the studies and ways we try to prolong life? And there are so many medications to enhance the quality of life. UM, maybe a lot of medications wouldn't be neccessary if we just improved the growth, and care of life from the start. How come no one takes the time to look at the child, the family unit etc? You know its like every child born is given a lotto ticket and maybe they will be the one in how many billion to get the real loving parent and good family enviornment.

And all I see is constant deterioration of the family unit everywhere, in every country in the world. How people are stuggling, losing homes and jobs and means of getting from one day to the next and how it is destroying whatever possible family unit that is there. How big banks can get a bailout, what about the bailout of families? It is just so inconceivable to me.

I have been told that I am very intelligent. Well, that doesn't help me feel better. I would rather others that are intelligent made sure that I was brought up better and was given a chance to develope my intelligence in learning rather than self protecting and survival IN MY OWN FAMILY ENVIORNMENT.

And if you think it is any better now than when you grew up, take another look. I think it is even worse.

Even an animal can raise offspring better than humans can.

I am very sorry for anyone that comes here and has to feel all this pain.

I wish it could have been different for you, me and others.

Open Eyes