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Originally Posted by DarkAsNight
My therapist dumped me after a year + and I'm so angry, how can my T do this? After revealing intimate things and talking about experiencing rejection and low self-esteem due to that, the one person who knows me to the core, got rid of me, validating my greatest fear of rejection if people really knew me, how can I ever open up to anyone again in a real relationship? I don't think I"ll ever get over this...and now stuck, too depressed to start over with another T, took 6 months just to feel somewhat comfortable with this one, have to start again? I keep thinking I want to die lately, constantly, can't stop thinking about all this but since no one knows about my T and my life at the core, I can't ask anyone directly what to do to get past this...please help if you can
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(((DarkAsNight)))
What a difficult thing... I know how it feels. My T told me she was retiring after a year and a half. First I went numb. Then I was so hurt, angry, sad, I felt like my heart was melting. I spent three days afterwards hardly fighting back the tears. I'd be in the grocery store and just couldn't hold them back. It is so hard to trust someone so deeply and then have them say they are leaving. What I can say to you is hang in there. The pain will begin to subside after a time. For me it was about two weeks. Tell your T just how you are feeling; if you are majorly p***ed off, or deeply hurt etc. tell them. But also ask for some names. Your T should provide you with some names of people that would fit with you. I didn't want to start up with anyone new at all either. The first two Ts felt off. But the third T I met with seemed OK (I wasn't thrilled of course but I thought, "she'll do"). But now, a year later I can see the ways that this new T has been especially helpful for my situation. I have even learned things from her I probably could not get from my last T. Each T will offer something different. Hang in there. Sending many, many supportive thoughts your way.
E.