Thanks swimjim, I am glad I could help. It was not surprising to me that she was unwilling to work with you on this. It's good to hear that you were able to explain yourself again and at least know that you tried your best. She sounds so much like my ex-gf, it is uncanny. She seems very controlling and will do everything she can to discount your feelings. I know how frustrating this can be. It is as if she is willing to throw away a great relationship just to protect herself. But she is creating the very situation she fears most... abandonment. My ex played the same card with me. That if I loved her, it should be easy and I should have no doubt. She thought that she could bully me into feeling guilty and roll over like a puppy. Then she wouldn't be held responsible for her actions and how they negatively affect the relationship. I had to stand my ground and demand what I deserved. Don't regret standing up for yourself and being honest with her. Many a poor soul has ignored his own inner voice and suffered through a painful marriage and ultimate divorce. And all is not lost. Things just may work out with her in the end. If not, at least you know you have done all you can to make the relationship the strongest it can be and one that you deserve.