He has at least up until the last couple years, always said that my parents treated him more like a son, then his parents ever did.

Now that he has re-connected with his birth mother and other family, he has learned that as bad as he had it with his adoptive family, it was far better than if he had stayed in that envirnment. His mother and half siblings have all had drug, alcohol, abuse, and criminal problems. He would have been nearly helpless to have ended up being a normal adult. He decided as a very young man, that he would not end up like his adoptive parents and has worked his behind off, to make something better out of his life. I am so proud of all he has accomplished since I met him at 18. He doesn't drink hardly ever at all, and when he has it is minimal. He has always been a good father and he was my rock....until he made contact with the mess of a familyche was born into....

I AM SURE IN MY HEART AND SOUL, THAT THERE IS A REAL LINK there to the changes he has gone through, but I can't get him to do anything to help him through this mess...

He just seems to not trust me.... or maybe he thinks I can't handle whatever it is, but I told him that I can handle anything but what he is doing to me. I can deal with anything but silence and distance.... it hasn't changed anything...