I would have to say that she (your mom) will need some time to come to terms with this issue on her own.... step back and let her breathe and then in time she will talk to you as she is ready.

Please do keep in mind that while your mom is acting mean and rude to you right now - that she probably still loves you very much - she is just confused right now and well when we cannot put a name to our feelings - it comes out as ANGER.

Hang in There - it will work out as it should.... true destiny is yours.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -