This is what you think she will think. You really don't know what she believes.

You know, when we grow up in dysfunctional families where there isn't good communication we get used to assuming and guessing and only figuring things out by ourselves. What we need to learn is to communicate with others, learn that communicating with others isn't a bad thing. I had to learn to stop assuming and others here have needed to learn this too. I had to learn to communicate with others.

What I realized when I started doing this was that ALL of my assumptions were wrong. Yes, every single one of them. How can an assumption be correct? How can we mind read?

Now I'm at the point where I don't know anything unless you tell me. I got my assumptions down to zero. I simply never assume anymore. It certainly makes life easier and it cut out all of that distress because assuming causes distress!