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Originally Posted by FW82
I generally hate people. People lie and they betray you. Just when I thought I found someone who I thought could be trusted, I got stabbed in the back. Which leads to my initial thought that people can't be trusted. I know that is no way to live, so it's better to just quit. Even when I type this, it seems like the only logical thing to do.
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Hate people? Man that's not a good attitude to have. There are plenty of good people in the world that are trustworthy and honest. If you haven't experienced/interacted with them. As someone who knows people that are extremely honest and trustworthy, I can tell you that they are out there. In order for them to befriend you though, you have to be honest/trustworthy yourself. If you lie, cheat, compete, etc these sorts of people are going to avoid you.
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Originally Posted by FW82
Also I don't have any goals in life. I can try to set some goals for myself, but I know I will never reach my own goals. I just need to do everything perfectly, and when I fail, I get depressed. I have always had the goal to be happy, but this just seems like an impossible goal, since I never even came close.
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You should just set one goal and work towards it everyday. Don't set a bunch of goals, it's too tough, especially when you are just getting started. If you say "I know I will never reach my goals" that's on you... At least you recognize you want to do everything "perfectly." All you have to do is stop doing it - you realize that it's holding you back. Just say that it's okay to not be perfect. As an FYI: being happy is not an impossible goal...
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Originally Posted by FW82
People have always said that I have great potential, and I started to believe it somehow. But when you reach 25 and have dropped out of college, you'll realise that you totally f***ed up.
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Everyone has potential, it's the people that use what their given that do things. You can always go back to college - it's not that complicated or "totally f***ed up" like you say. Just re-register and go back...
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Originally Posted by FW82
I don't think my father is the issue. He's dead and buried now, and he has been the perfect excuse for me to act very withdrawn. I now realise that he has never been the problem, I was. So I can't blame him, I can only blame myself.
I guess I'm just waiting for a miracle to happen. Because I am unable to change by myself.
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You need to take responsibility for where you're at even if you didn't cause yourself to be this way. Taking 100% responsibility for where you are at is the only way things are going to improve. Waiting for a miracle to happen isn't going to change anything.
Don't dwell on where you're at, focus on what you want and work towards it. It's not easy, but you can get there and overcome what you're going through if you try. You always have the conscious choice to change... Just like you can decide whether you want to turn right or left at an intersection. You have a choice, it's up to you to make the choice to do activities that improve your situation instead of choosing to stagnate/stay trapped.
Best wishes.