Hey,

I don't think anyone is selfish on here when they ask for help, no matter how much they do or don't reply to others messages. I think everyone does their best to help when they feel able to and we all understand there are times when we don't feel able to give advice, or have the enegry to reply.

I always find my T is different on the phone than in real life, I find her quite cold in other forums of contact appart from in person. What I am saying is that often when we aren't in face to face contact with our T we can make assumptions about the way they say or do things and add meanings when there isnt any. If you feel comfortable talking openly with yoru T you could say how you felt with the phone call?

I think it's natural to feel anxious about going to sessions every so often, even more so if we expect to be facing an issue or talking about something we don't really feel comfortable with. I think it sounds like you know you will go to your session and I hope you do. If you feel texting your T will help you go then I don't think there is any harm in it.

we are here for you