thank you so much Rebecca8 for your response.You hit the nail right on the head about him blaming me ..he always tells me that we are doing good untill I start bringing in all my problems.he tells me if he wants to stay allnight he will and if he doesn't he won't..thats when I decided that I diserve so much more ..We get along so good and its sad that he cant just tell me the truth..I have wasted so much of my life ..I'm afraid that he is just using me because he knows that what he is doing at home isn't right and I am like a decoy to make others think it's not happening..If he doesnt tell me the truth as to why he can't stay then why should I trust him? he tells me " I listen to everyone else except him" I know the answer and I'm trying so hard to just realize that he didn't respect me enough or love me enough..thank you so much you were very helpful ..have a great day! the things I have seen to make me feel the way I do is something I would tell you in private message but not on here ..I'm right and I know it ..he is a loser lol