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Originally Posted by jadedmoonbeam
I know you're young honey, and I have been there, done that. I am telling you this stuff to help you....I am 41 years old and have been exactly in your shoes.
why do you want to be with a cheater when you've been cheated on...and you already hate yourself...take yourself out of this mess while you still can.
While you're off this summer find some other things to do and find a nice guy who doesn't have a girlfriend and can treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
If this guy is willing to cheat, hasn't broken up with his GIRLFRIEND but still asked you to your school Formal/Prom...is this really the kind of boy you want to be with?
Let him choose her....i think you might like him because of the thrill of it all right now...but he's really not a nice guy when you look at it. You will end up hurt and lied to just like he's lying to his girlfriend every time he's with you - he's probably lying to you already.
When he calls/texts you, don't answer the phone. When you want to call/text him, call another friend if you can, or come on here and post...find something else to do till the urge goes away...it will be hard at first but trust me, it will be the best thing for you to get rid of this guy.
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I can't say it any better than this right here. Perfect response.
You know he is wrong for you so what are you waiting for? End this before it gets to deep. It will hurt right now but believe me, it will hurt a lot worse if you keep it up and end it years down the road. This obviously isn't the right guy for you, and if it were he would have broken up with his girlfriend a LONG time ago. I was with a girl that I broke up with because I was still in love with someone from my past, someone who had moved on and was engaged and everything. I never cheated, but just knowing that in my eyes that sort of WAS cheating I ended a relationship. I didn't want to hurt her but I knew it was best that way.
Now you have to make that decision for yourself. Not only are you hurting yourself, but the other girl involved. She doesn't know that this is going on and it would be devastating if she had to find out. I am not calling you out or saying you're in the wrong or anything like that, but before you really ARE in the wrong this needs to end now. You know what is right and you know what is wrong and now is as good of a time as ever to step up and move on from this loser.
By the way, I read some more recent responses from you and other members. For one I wouldn't be arguing with someone saying he isn't a nice guy. No matter how nice he can act it doesn't mean that he is a nice guy. What he is doing to this other girl and to you is NOT nice. Even if you don't see it that way, you should have sympathy for the other girl. How would you feel in HER shoes? Think about that.
Also, him staying up with you in no way shape or form shows that he loves you or anything like that. Guys will do almost anything to get what they want, even if it is something on the side.
Good luck to ya.
