It's like setting your boundaries, Sweetheart. When you notice that you're feeling angry or down, stop and think about why. Or... when memories come back to you, go over the memory and ask yourself, is this happening NOW? Chances are, they are not.

Think to yourself:
"It's in the PAST."
"What is, is, and I can't change the PAST."
"NOW what? Do I want to stay in the misery of the past, or do I want to see what's up ahead?"

This is where we tend to get stuck because we don't know what's up ahead. Take it from me, though. ANYTHING is better than reliving the past over and over again; holding grudges and resentments. That DOES NOT change anything.

This might be a good place to really listen to compliments you get and also do an objective survey of your strengths and your qualities.

Every time you come up with something negative, look at it as having learned a lesson; what didn't work and you'll know what does. If not, try something different even if you think it's wrong. At least it's movement. You won't be stagnating in the past.

Does that help you any??