Hi. I would wait a bit, 5-10 years until you are on your own a bit and away from your mother and grandmother and their negative influence and have worked on a few of your own problems and are feeling "better" so you can think clearly. It doesn't sound like your father will be a great savior or anything, might be more disappointment (or why hasn't he contacted you instead of you having to worry about it? He's the adult!) and messy emotions. I'd get in a better place, personally, and then try to sort out your social/family life.