Thanks guys. I know that when I next see my brother we'll talk about this. We don't see each other often, and we always at some stage start reminiscing about how horrible our childhood was! It's not as though we don't forgive our parents, we both love our Dad, and he's apologised for the past, and is trying to be the best Dad for the present and future. He went into therapy for his temper years ago, and it made a difference. But we've still got so much cr@p to wade through. It might be one reason why, though we love each other so much, my brother and I don't meet up that often. It gets painful.