:/ I'm shy when meeting new people. I don't get overly upset. I just get nervous about their intentions & about embarassing myself or being socially awkward. However, if I had a T & they surprised me like that, I'd be upset. I might not be AS upset as you, but I would be upset that they didn't at least MENTION it to me.

This woman, I'm assuming, knows about the social anxiety you described having. She should have known what to expect with this. I'm not sure how she could have seen going about this situation in that particular manner as being the best way to do it. She should have built you up to meeting this person if she knew you have trouble with social anxiety when meeting new people. She should know that throwing a new person into her session with you would greatly distress you.

You should be able to trust your T with ANYTHING. It's a shame she betrayed your trust like that. It's definitely a good idea that you tell her how you feel. I hope that you stand strong & don't hurt yourself. If you have any friends or family that you feel comfortable speaking to about it, it would probably help. If not, you could send me a message if you'd like. I'm a good listener. I'm in no way a professional, but I've always been good at lending someone an ear.