Hi,
I cannot believe how our stories are a lot alike. I met the man I am with online and when we first met in person we hit it off and he made me feel like I was the most important person in his life. We dated for almost a year and I ended up quiting my job and am now full time RVing with him. For the last year my life has been an emotional roller coaster. He has made me feel like everything is my fault. He shows absolutetly no respect for my feelings and like you it is all about the sex. I am so scared right now because I don't know what to do. I want to confront him about it but I know he will go postal on me. He does not take well to even the smallest of criticism and everything has to be his way or no way. There have been many times where I have told him if he is so unhappy with me then he should just leave but he keeps staying. I am about at my wits end. I can't continue to live on eggshells all the time and it sure would be nice if there was someone out there who could give me some pointers. Thanks for listening. I hope you will reply.
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Originally Posted by NuckingFutz
I met a man shortly after the new year. He was at my best friend's house. He offered to drive me home after my visit. And for the next few days he pulled out all the stops to get me to be with him. I was flattered. I was happy, I was in lala land and ignoring all the signs that this man was bad for me.
Once he had me in his grip and moved into his apartment, this man became abusive emotionally and verbally. It was like he was a different person. He blamed me for stuff I didn't do, he would tell me shocking things about himself sexually (he was all about the sex). It was so bad that I starting going numb because I couldn't handle the things he would tell me.
It wasn't until I got away from him that I figured out that I was dealing with a narcissist. My mom is a narcisist so I had been around this behavior since I was just a baby. That and he bragged that his therapist said he was high in the narcissism range. He told me that because he thought that made him special. It does, but not in a good way.
I have no contact with this man for my sanity. But what he did was manipulate me, twist my words around and blame me for stuff I didn't do.
I am healing slowly and it's a hard road because most partners of narcissists want the guy they first met back not realizing that the real him is the guy that comes out and hates, and sees everything about him, that he is special. The nice guy I first met was a fake, he doesn't exist. And that is the hardest part to accept. It's harder than normal relationships because they are so intense.
Now this narcissist is hanging out with my best friend in Austin. I love my best friend but he doesn't understand the concept of narcissism. I am afraid my friend will get hurt eventually. My ex already sexually propositioned him. My friend doesn't really like him but nothing really bad has happened so far.
I've kept in contact with a couple I met through my N. They had a falling out and no longer speak to my ex. They realized how crazy their lives were with my ex in it.
I don't want anything bad to happen to my friend. I know I am moving at the end of the month, but I'd like to stay in contact with my friend.
Can anyone here relate?
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