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May 21, 2011, 10:08 PM
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Member Since: May 2011
Posts: 78
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so sorry for the conflicts you are going through in your marriage. it sounds like you believe the love is there, but as you describe the argument, you don't have good couple communication tools. each of you make drastic statements that ramps up the anxiety and anger between you. it sounds so painful.
it sounds like you need to feel more empowered and less helpless. (btw, involuntary hospitalization is currently reserved for people who are imminently suicidal or homicidal. it is hard for doctors to get patients in the hospital, much less other family members. and 3 days is max you have to stay in. people as functional as you clearly are don't get "committed" anymore.)
you say you want him to take your seriously, hear you, and understand your condition. i have a thought--you go first. start discussing these goals with a therapist, just by yourself, and with him later if you can. take your own feelings seriously, be really heard by a professional, learn more about your own condition, and then you will likely find your communication becomes more self controlled. you gain self respect and your husband sees your maturity over time and you both could maybe approach each other from love rather than misunderstanding.
oh, and by the way the National Alliance for Mental Illness is a great FREE resource for helping you learn to cope and him to understand better. there are groups in all states and most counties. best to you! 
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