Hi SarahL

Yes, it's the same with me. I'm OK in my job dealing with people as I'm sure of my ground, but it's in my social life when I get paranoid. Well, it's afterwards, really, when I tend to go over and over conversations, what I said, did I say too much, did I laugh too much, was I too vivacious or, indeed, too quiet, did they look at me askance, were they talking about me afterwards. I sometimes go through agonies of doubt. But, at the same time, I do realise it's all in my mind and, even if it isn't, what the hell, does it matter?

We must learn to simply relax in company, but at the same time, perhaps wouldn't want to confide too much (especially about our state of mind), then we hopefully won't have these self-recriminations afterwards. Does that make sense?

All best wishes, FG