I'm sorry. None of this sounds like productive interaction to me ... just my opinion. I think you should focus on yourself. If he doesn't want to go to therapy with you then I don't think he should be pushed to do so because then he will only resent you for making him go. Personally I think he's enjoying this and you're giving him too much attention for his behavior. I've found in my life of 50 years that men only want what they can't have. If you appear as to not care you may see a different side of him. I would continue with my own therapy and self-improvement in preparation for the worst. You might find he suddenly becomes very attentive but if not, then odds are it's not headed in a good direction anyway. I hate to sound like a cold, hard person but I've been here and done this. Life's too short to spend it miserably latching on to something that's not worth saving. Save yourself first. If the rest of it works out then it's meant to be. If not, you're stronger for working on yourself and will deal with issues in a much brighter light. Good luck to you! You can do it! Keep your chin up and worry about you first )