Well, since that happened I haven't really thought about what I should of said or done.. If anything I feel calmer now than I was before knowing that he had spilled secrets. I have no idea how to move on really. I've gotten past the stage where it hurts, and gotten past the stage where he was all I could think about by just living on without setting limits or trying. It has been 7 months, and I feel okay about it.. Which is why I didn't really understand why so suddenly I needed contact and to lash out.