ty all for your answers. i have had this many Ts in about 5 years for different reasons - I moved, they moved, other inpatient, a few i frustrated them to the point they referred me away. Anyways I know it is work, i just dont know what work to do. I might sound like an idiot for saying that but I dont know. And the T's leave it so open ended - like "why are you here, how would things look if they were different" and I dont know what to say. Maybe i think too much, who knows, who cares.