forum to post this in. However, as I am a survivor of childhood abuse, I'm posting it here.
And please forgive me for the lack of intimate details

I've recently dealt with a very challenging (and at the time very painful) situation very well. (not on pc). I doubt if a year or so I'd have dealt with it so well as there were many many triggers of severe abuse for me, where I was being abused....Several people were involved, one of whom "instantiated" an abuser, although they were not an abuser (imo) The term "instantiated" is from a good friend who I talk to regularly (maybe not completely the right term)

Also there was a lot of "transference" on my part... (not talked about although I think one of the parties realised... they said they understand me better than I realise as they were once me,...... this was not the person who "instantiated" the "abuser(s)"

I feel like crap but I'm still standing. And moving forward!

(and its scary to post this )

(wondering if I'm talking about abuse "for the sake of it"...I don't think so... but how many of us completely understand ourselves (rhetorical question)... a friend said this and I didn't like it at the time but I respect them and care about them. And wondering about deleting the ***** post. sigh)