In my lifetime I have been very non confrontational..meaning..never standed up to someone who is using me, while being yelled at I simply say'"I'm so so sorry I love you," instead of yelling back...and it's bizarre...I've found all of the times I was yelled at and I smily sweetly said I am so sorry I love you that doesnt stop the person from yelling at me, I've found the sweeter I am the more they yell at me. It's bizarre..you would think a sweet smile and comment wouls stop them but it didnt. Then they accuse of of thinking only of myself when I didnt say anything about myself just say how much I love them. People have walked all over me and i'm just pointing out a bizarre human falacy that if you are as non confrontational as I am you LOSE in this life.........