Yep, you said it all. My mom was so fustrated not being able to work, not having anyone to talk to.

After I left my ex I knew I was at risk to do the same, I have a temper and no fuse, so I went to a parenting class. Surprisingly most parents were there voluntarily, very few ordered by a judge. We all wanted NOT to raise are kids the way we were. My mom said she wished such things were around for her.

My daughter was about 4 maybe 5 when she asked me why I didn't spank her! When I asked her why? She said her friends got a spanking and then it was over, they didn't have to sit there, and then talk about it! I asked her if her friends ever learned anything from their spanking, she said (with a pout) it doesn't matter, just get it over with! But man it was hard some days, I had to lock myself in my bedroom until I cooled off, the best thing I learned from the group was never discipline when your angry.