i ask that myself sometimes. why does a person bother with me if they want to change every darn thing about me. wouldnt it just be easier for them to find someone else, that has all those things i lack?

youre right to tell them what you see is what you get. you should not have to change to suit someone elses tastes or interests. and no nunnery! just be yourself and the right person will come along, and they wont want you to change a thing. you should never have to drink or eat junk food or buy a new wardrobe, not for anyone. keep being yourself, you sound like a pretty cool person to me.