Glad to hear that you took time out to talk to your older son.

And I hope you now realize how we can be taught how to address our children. And it is good that you have recoginized this and have worked to change the parenting methods.

Many parents do not realize how they sometimes repeat a parenting style, something that may have an effect that they are unaware of. I tried very hard to conteract anything I learned growing up. But, it was difficult for me when I was raising my daughter because I was dealing with things in my own life. Luckily I stopped and thought and made sure that I did everything possible to make sure my own issues were not effecting my daughter.

Well, I tried, wasn't perfect. And today she often does not understand me on some levels because she didn't grow up like me. No, shes stronger than me. But she is with a person that has a tendency or can be a binge alcoholic or even a dry drunk. Oh, it is hard because she saw me do it, and work with it and so she does it too. Ahh, it is so hard, your dammed if you do and damed if you don't. All we can do is our best. My husband tries to talk to her about it so she can realize what is going on and what choices she is making.

Its hard for me because I do want her to understand and yet I don't want her to own my issues. Oh, its just not easy.

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