The exact situation is seriously a lot more complicated than what I posted here. I have another thread mainly detailing the problems with the OCD if you're interested in reading it. If I posted all of it I doubt anyone would want to read it because it would be so long and convoluted haha.

I guess what I'm trying to do is break it down into smaller components to try to make it seem less overwhelming. Communication seems to have completely broken down and, without that, there's no point in trying to resolve the other issues. So I think that's the first issue I want to tackle. I want my thoughts and feelings to be heard and taken seriously by him without having to worry about him being consumed by guilt and resentment...etc.

I know he's really down on himself atm and probably can't see past his own emotions. I want him to really listen to me with the idea of getting help for himself. I know it has to be his decision. But the longer he continues to do nothing, he will just slide further and further down this black hole and trying to keep a relationship with that dragging it down is simply impossible. It's just not fair that he expects everyone else to alter their lives and deal with his mental condition when he himself is clearly not dealing with it.

You're right, I can't live my life walking on eggshells. It's too stressful. I wouldn't want to. But I do want my boyfriend back.