I can definitely empathize with you. For that reason I’ll share my thoughts. I’ve lost ties to my friends and my family. I lost the support of my co-workers and ultimately, lost my job. While going through a very bad period in my life, I had no one there to support me. I truly had no one. Not only that, but there were some people who actually seemed to make it a mission to make things even harder for me. I wracked my brain trying to figure out why, but could come up with no feasible answer.

So, why is it that the people you think will be there for you suddenly disappear? The only thing I could come up with to answer that is that it’s a part of human nature. Not the best part, but probably something to do with the fight or flight theory. It’s so much easier for someone to “walk away” or shut off. Sometimes it’s because, they themselves, are going through their own issues. Sometimes, I think, they just out and out get tired of dealing with things that cause them any emotional distress. I don’t think it’s done out of malice, but no matter, it still hurts the recipient.

This is when it becomes up to us to try to be strong. I know it’s easy to say, and harder to do, but it can be done. Just try to remember that, ultimately, you are your own caretaker. It won’t do you any good to lament over the situation if it doesn’t produce any positive results. Cry, most definitely, and then gather yourself up and realize that as much as it hurts, it won’t kill you. Think of all the things you have endured already and realize that you did make it through all of them, even if the memories still remain.

I am truly sorry that you are going through all of this. Sometimes things seem to all happen at once, which makes it even harder. It’s easy for other people tell you to change, because it would probably suit them better. However, it’s your life and it’s you that need to decide whether or not that’s constructive advice. Just because it’s someone’s opinion, doesn’t make it the right thing to do. I’m sure your inner strength and wisdom will carry you through this tumultuous time. That’s where your self-worth comes from. Sometimes it just falters under pressure.

So, if I can offer any kind words to you, they are to tell you that, yes, things will get better and, yes, everything will be okay.