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You say that she is a distant friend -- do you mean physically distant (far away) or that you two aren't close friends?
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Sort of both. We used to live next door to each other, and were good friends then, but we moved across the country and haven't seen her for 3 years. We have kept in touch, but I would not consider her a close friend.
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I'm sorry this turned into a "My fiance is the best person in the world!" post
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Don't be. I think it's fantastic that you've found someone so supportive. Some things are worth shouting from rooftops.
Mgran - your post brought tears to my eyes. I have seen other posts about your husband before and have felt truly inspired by your relationship. He was a true blessing, as were you to him. I hope my own marriage will continue to last and be as strong as yours.
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My mom told me something that has stuck with me and I think is very true: Women get married hoping the man changes everything and men get married hoping the woman changes nothing.
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I love this. It seems so true sometimes!
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What if you get into a relationship only to find out their alcoholism or drug addiction or whatever has been kept a secret from you? After all the lies and hurt, would you still be willing to stick around and wait for them to want to heal themselves?
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Good question. I think at that point there is a fundamental lack of trust if something like that was kept a secret and that the mental illness is only one of the major issues in the relationship. It would depend on how the person presented it - do they regret not telling you and want to come clean and be honest? Or have they deliberately hidden it as some sort of manipulative ploy? If they were genuinely sorry they hid it, then I would be inclined to at least try to help them work through it. If it was some sort of entrapment game, then all bets are off and the basis of the relationship is likely a sham.