{{{{Candybear}}}}
Sometimes I feel so frustrated when I read posts because I want to help someway, but generally am not due to distance, etc. You continue in my thoughts and prayers. I truly wish I had a magic wand, Candy.
Since you really don't want to move to MN, if you havene't already, perhaps checking out the social services in your area might be a next step. (Did you have a social worker assigned from your hospital stay?) Often they can put you in touch for necessary resources.
I'm always ready to listen here in PM or chat.
Considering all you've been through, the depression is not unusual but stinks going through it!