You don't need to be scared here. No one will judge you. We can't talk about you ~ we don't even know who you are. LOL And we wouldn't do that anyway!!!
I know that talking about past issues is scary -- would talking to a therapist be less frightening? You should probably be seeing one anyway.

You'll need to see one in order to figure out how to deal with these issues. You can't keep carrying them around with you like excess baggage ~ you've got to learn how to let them go. And a therapist would know how to do that.
(((gentle hugs))) to you, my friend. Take care. Lee