Thanks for the kind words, RomanSunburn. But don't be too impressed. About 6-7 months ago I was a complete wreck over this situation. It's been going on for about a year, well, a year and a half if one counts the issues with depression. I suppose in that way being so far away from him has been to my advantage. It gave me the opportunity to have some distance and reflection. I've had a lot of time to stew over this and debate it over and over and over...I haven't only turned to online forums for help, but I've also talked it over with a few close friends to the point where I'm sure they're tired of hearing about it

It's taken me an absurdly long time to accept what it is I have to do. I detest ultimatums on principle, but I feel all other options have been exhausted. And there's still a large part of me that's afraid I'm doing the wrong thing. I'm going to stick with the letter because I find it much easier to convey my thoughts and feelings on paper rather than in speaking to him now. I would let my emotions get the better of me and I would say things I didn't mean or in ways I didn't intend to say them and he would misinterpret them, of course. A letter is the only way I can conceive of making him understand where I'm coming from.

But thanks so much for your help!